02 Sep

Who’s There?

Amy Lively

Whew! I’m halfway done delivering invitations for my Open House to my neighbors.

Note to self: take dog treats next time! I met a dozen dogs of all shapes and sizes. I also met the pastor of a local church on her way to deliver meals, and the owner of a local bar enjoying a beer on her front porch. I met women in high heels and women in slippers (not a few who were still wearing pajamas :).

Without exception, the women who were home invited me inside to visit (maybe the hundred-degree heat had something to do with it). One of my neighbors told me, “I’m new around here, I don’t hardly know anyone.” When I asked her how long she’d lived here, she said, “15 years!” That’s a long time to be lonely, isn’t it?

As we shared names of neighbors we might know in common, one woman learned that someone who’s been on her church’s prayer list lives right in her backyard – literally! She can see the other woman’s house from her kitchen sink.

It’s easy to prayerfully fold our hands about our neighbor’s needs.

It’s much harder to carefully hold their hands when they need us.

I met a woman who just moved here as her husband started a new job with insane hours, who is in between her twin daughters’ weddings which are only 28 days apart. “You need some girlfriends!” I told her. I hope she’ll meet some at The Rosewood Cafe.

One of my neighbors told me about myself! “There’s a lady down the street who does a Bible study,” she helpfully explained. When she described my house to a tee, I assured her it was me. “Oh, no, honey – this isn’t you,” she insisted. I think I finally convinced her we were one and the same.

The back patio has replaced the front porch.

You see a lot when you go to someone’s front door. You’d be surprised how many people leave their Christmas lights up year round (one house even had a Christmas tree in the living room!). Some homes were meticulous, not a leaf out of place. Others had cobwebs over the door because families enter through the attached garage.

At the last minute I grabbed a Planning Guide to help me remember who I talked to. They may never remember me, but I will not forget the women I met, the homes I entered and the prayers I whispered along the way.


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Jitters

Invitations in hand, it’s time to knock on my neighbor’s doors and invite them to my Open House for The Rosewood Cafe. I can think of a hundred reasons why I should put this off another day. I have a stack of bills to pay. We’re out of dog food, I need to go to the store. I’m tired. I’ve got the jitters, really. I don’t know what I’ll find or how I’ll be received. This is physically hard, mentally hard, emotionally hard. But hey, it’s nothing like… Read More


Making Invitations

Craft supplies and candy are taking over the family room as we put together invitations for the Open House I’m hosting for my neighbors for my Neighborhood Cafe, which is called the Rosewood Cafe since we live on Rosewood Drive. Here’s a peek at the process, complete with pictures… Read More


And the winner is…

The winner of our giveaway of Lysa TerKeurst’s “Becoming More Than A Good Bible Study Girl” book, workbook and DVD is Tracey Fawcett White! Thanks for your comments, it’s so helpful when choosing a study to hear from people who have “been there, done that.” If you’re considering a Neighborhood Cafe, please don’t get hung up on which Bible study to do. Take things one step at a time, and the first step is… Read More


Women’s Ministry That Works

I recently invested in a new health and wellness plan that my friends had been raving over. I did pretty well the first couple of weeks, but when it became apparent I wasn’t going to drop a dress size before an upcoming dinner date, I let up a little. Then a lot. I won’t tell how much I spent or how much weight I lost, but… Read More


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31 Aug

Jitters!

Amy Lively

Invitations in hand, it’s time to knock on my neighbor’s doors and invite them to my Open House for The Rosewood Cafe.

I always manage to pick the worst weather! The highs are in the 90’s this week with high humidity; in January, I delivered invitations in 14″ of snow. And I always wait until the very last possible minute: my Cafe starts a week from Friday, so I’m already past the 2-week notice I like to allow.

I can think of a hundred reasons why

I should put this off another day.


I have a stack of bills to pay. We’re out of dog food, I need to go to the store. I’m tired.

I’ve got the jitters, really. I don’t know what I’ll find or how I’ll be received. This is physically hard, mentally hard, emotionally hard. But hey, it’s nothing like being imprisoned, flogged, stoned or shipwrecked (2 Cor. 11:23-27)!

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the years I’ve been doing this, it’s that my delay is disobedience, and disobedience brings discipline. Ouch!

I’ve also learned that the reward of meeting my neighbors far outweighs my fear.

Right this very minute, on my very own street, there might be a women who is at the end of her rope, reaching for Jesus. I’ve prayed for God to use me to show His lovingkindness to someone who needs to feel cared for today.

It’s time to stop typing and start talking! Buh-bye!


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28 Aug

Making Invitations

Amy Lively

Craft supplies and candy are taking over the family room as we put together invitations for the Open House I’m hosting for my neighbors for my Neighborhood Cafe, which is called the Rosewood Cafe since we live on Rosewood Drive. Here’s a peek at the process:


Strawberry Bon Bons!

This red and white candy looks good with the invitations. I bought it in bulk from Giant Eagle for around $3 a pound. You can read lots of ideas and suggestions about turning your Invitation into a gift by clicking here.





Invitations-In-Progress

We put 5-6 pieces of candy in these clear cello bags from Hobby Lobby. They were $1.99 for 48 bags and I had a 25% coupon. I trimmed an inch off the top using scalloped scissors because they were a little too tall.





Rosewood Cafe Personalized Invitation

I used the “Cafe” invitation style, which I personalized with my contact info so I didn’t have to write them all out. You can print your own “Cafe” style invitations here, or purchase pre-printed invitations in the Cafe Kit.There are three different styles to choose from and you can get them with fill-in-the-blank lines or personalized, like mine.






The Finished Product

Curling ribbon is used to tie the bags of candy onto the invitation ($1.99 for 100 yards – plenty!). We punched a hole in each invitation and left long loops on the bow so the invitation can be hung on a doorknob if no one is home.



This is the fun part – now comes the hard part: actually passing them out! Click here to read what I might encounter as I knock on my neighbors’ doors. I’ll let you know how it goes!


Loving you and your neighbors (and mine!),

Amy


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28 Aug

The winner of our giveaway of Lysa TerKeurst’s “Becoming More Than A Good Bible Study Girl” book, workbook and DVD is Tracey Fawcett White! Thanks for your comments, it’s so helpful when choosing a study to hear from people who have “been there, done that.”

If you’re considering a Neighborhood Cafe, please don’t get hung up on which Bible study to do. Take things one step at a time, and the first step is just to get to know your neighbors. Be friendly, make friends. Host an Open House just to love on them.

As you get to know the women around you, ask the Holy Spirit to give you discernment into their needs.

What woman doesn’t want to feel loved? Who doesn’t need more patience? Who isn’t seeking fulfillment? There are inspiring and inspired Bible studies galore to choose from that are relevant to all women.

Check our our lists of recommendations here and here. Ask your church to recommend a study. Take a field trip to your local Christian bookstore to see what’s available. Most stores will place special orders for you and have a liberal return policy (ask before your purchase). Check out online Christian bookstores like Christian Book and Lifeway.

Select two or three different topics with varying teaching methods such as DVD’s, books or workbooks. Look at different levels of homework, which range from an hour a day to a few minutes a week.

Then ask your neighbors if any of these look interesting, and leave the decision to them.


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28 Aug

Titus 2: Women’s Ministry that Works

by Amy Lively

This article was originally published in the August 18, 2010 “Tip of the Week” newsletter from womensministry.net, a publication of Jennifer Rothschild Ministries.

I recently invested in a new health and wellness plan that my friends had been raving over. I did pretty well the first couple of weeks, but when it became apparent I wasn’t going to drop a dress size before an upcoming dinner date, I let up a little. Then a lot.

I won’t tell how much I spent or how much weight I lost, but the price per pound was comparable to caviar! There are no paid sponsorships in my future: I am the poster child for what not to do!

Sometimes I treat God like an As-Seen-On-TV gadget. I get excited at church or emotional during a song, and I listen to my friends talk about their faith. But when God and I get home, and it’s just the two of us together, He doesn’t work like they said—and His user manual is thousands of pages long!

On those days when I’m not gushing goodness, my godly girlfriends hold me accountable. Titus 2:7-8 identifies a successful ministry to women as one that sets an example of good deeds (not misdeeds like mine) using solid biblical teaching modeled in authentic relationships and wholesome conversation. Consistency is key. Unlike my on-again, off-again attempts, an effective women’s ministry acts with integrity every day so no one can find anything bad to say about our leaders, members, church or our Savior.

Titus 2 is a defining chapter for women’s ministry and ends with a reminder that God’s grace enables us to say “No” to our own appetites and live self-controlled and godly lives. When we strive for short-term goals (like reaching a certain dress size or number of members), the only thing we lose is the big picture. Breakthrough will happen in the lives of the women we serve when our teaching, friendships and conversations consistently focus on “the blessed hope—the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ.” (Titus 2:13)

ICEBREAKER: Ask women to bring an item they bought off an infomercial or because of a friend’s recommendation. Give them time to share a bit about the product and why they bought it. Have them answer, “Does it work? Was it what you expected?  Would you recommend it?”

You might even have a white elephant gift exchange for the craziest gadget!


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05 Aug

Free Giveaway!

Amy Lively

“What will we talk about?” is usually about the third question a potential Neighborhood Cafe hostess asks.

Enter to win a free Bible study!

Leave a comment below with a women’s Bible study you recommend or a question about choosing a Bible study, and you’ll be entered to win Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl by Lysa TerKeurst along with the DVD Curriculum and Leader’s Guide and a Participants Guide! The winner will be notified by email.


There are endless, excellent women’s Bible studies for you to choose from, but here are some I personally recommend:

Anything by Proverbs 31 Ministries

I’ve had the opportunity to meet many of the Proverbs 31 authors, and I can attest that they are women seeking God’s own heart. In particular, I recommend:

What’s up with Bible studies about fashion and home organization? I love these topics for a Neighborhood Cafe because they’re interesting  and applicable to every woman and take a lighthearted approach to understanding and applying God’s word in our everyday lives.

Anything by Jennifer Rothschild

Blind since the age of 15, Jennifer Rothschild has a signature wit and poignant story-telling style that will help you learn to look beyond your circumstances to find unique “gifts” in unusual packaging.

Pure Purpose

Discover Pure Purpose – in the midst of your experiences, questions, and relationships – and discover who God is and what he intends for your life. Finding the answers won’t be easy. You’ll need to commit to digging into God’s Word and looking in the mirror at the reflection of the woman God intends you to become. You’ll be challenged to apply what you’re learning in everyday life. Susan Lawrence wrote this curriculum you can start on your own or with a small group.

Other Women’s Bible Study Resources

Don’t forget to ask your Pastor or Women’s Ministry director at your church for advice—they may even have DVD’s or resources you can borrow! Don’t forget to leave a reply below so you’ll be eligible to win Lysa TerKeurst’s new book, DVD, leader’s guide and participant’s guide.


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27 Jul

Comfortable?

Amy Lively

Man, oh man – I was so like this woman! Jesus’ footsteps will always lead to your neighbor’s door. I promise you, the blessing of obedience far outweighs the fear.


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My recent article published in the July 21, 2010 “Tip of the Week” newsletter from womensministry.net, a publication of Jennifer Rothschild Ministries, charted a course for covering the topics listed by Paul in Titus 2. Here is a list of resources for each topic:

How to Love Your Husband

Have a New Husband by Friday: How to Change His Attitude, Behavior & Communication in 5 Days by Dr. Kevin Leman

A Love Worth Giving by Max Lucado

How to Love Your Children

Have a New Kid By Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman

Essentials of Parenting: Raising Kids with a Faith that Lasts by Dr. Greg Smalley

Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel

How To Be Self-Controlled

Breaking Free by Beth Moore

A Woman’s Guide to Personal Discipline: A Biblical Study of Self-Control and Perseverance by Dr. Rhonda Kelley

How To Be Pure

Beauty by the Book by Laurie Cole

Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment by Shannon Ethridge

How To Keep House

Apples of Gold by Betty Huzienga

She Cooks by LeAnn Rice

The Messies Manual, 25th anniversary ed.: A Complete Guide to Bringing Order & Beauty to Your Home by Sandra Felton

How To Be Kind

Wisdom Series: Kindness from Zondervan Publishing

Kindness: Reaching Out To Others by Phyllis J. LePeau

How to Be Subject To Your Husband

Marriage on the Rock by Jimmy Evans

What’s Submission Got to Do With It? Find Out from a Woman Like You by Cindy Easley

Additional Resources:

Jennifer Rothschild Resources

Bible Studies and Resources for Women from Lifeway

Proverbs 31 Ministries Resources


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21 Jul

Women’s Ministry 101

by Amy Lively

This article was originally published in the July 21, 2010 “Tip of the Week” newsletter from womensministry.net, a publication of Jennifer Rothschild Ministries.

My girlfriend, Carey, taught me how to use Velcro rollers.  My dad taught me how to change a tire.  My mom taught me how to do laundry, and her mom taught me how to make Wedding Soup.  I’ve learned how to build a website and how to use a drill.I must have missed the class on “How To Love Your Husband.”

This is one of seven lessons Women’s Ministry should teach according Titus 2:4-5. You might consider adding these courses to your Women’s Ministry curriculum:

How to Love Your Husband

Learn how to be best friends with your husband and how to watch football without being annoying.  Lab experiments demonstrate how to bask in his presence without expressing every thought that passes through your mind.

How to Love Your Children

How to raise children that rise up and call you blessed instead of calling their shrink.  Care for their little souls as well as their growing bodies with practical exercises on discipline, morals, materialism and manners.

How to be Self-Controlled

How to keep your head regardless of your hormones, husband or household. Monthly refresher courses are available!

How to be Pure

Session starts with a fashion show, ends with discussion on old-fashioned values and modern-day modesty.

How to Keep House

Earn your advanced degree as facilities manager, sanitation engineer, logistics coordinator, computer technician, custodial supervisor, accountant, master chef and chief executive officer of your home.

How to be Kind

Sample this fruit of the Spirit using tried and true recipes for serving up goodness, usefulness, pleasantness, excellence, joyfulness and happiness at your family table.

How to be Subject to Your Husband

You know how to organize your closets, but have you organized your marriage?  Set things in order by cleaning out superior attitudes, uncooperativeness, stubbornness and independence.

As a woman who has personally failed each of these courses at one time or another, it’s a relief to know we can learn these skills. We can be A+ students in Husband Loving 101. We can be taught how to love our children. We can soak up self-control, pick up on purity, become down pat domestic divas, major in kindness and specialize in submission. Visit our Blog for links to Bible studies on these subjects and to leave comments with your own recommendations.

Earn your Master’s Degree from the Master’s word, taught by mature women who have mastered these skills in the workplace!

Visit the Blog at WomensMinistry.net for a list of resources for each topic!


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07 Jul

That Oswald, he’s been reading my mail again! God has used “My Utmost For His Highest” by Oswald Chambers to pierce my heart on more than one occasion. Consider these excerpts from this week’s readings:

Visions Become Reality

July 6  |  We always have a vision of something before it actually becomes real to us. When we realize that the vision is real, but is not yet real in us, Satan comes to us with his temptations, and we are inclined to say that there is no point in even trying to continue… God gives us a vision, and then He takes us down to the valley to batter us into the shape of that vision. It is in the valley that so many of us give up and faint. Every God-given vision will become real if we will only have patience… The vision that God gives is not some unattainable castle in the sky, but a vision of what God wants you to be down here… God’s grace produces men and women with a strong family likeness to Jesus Christ, not pampered, spoiled weaklings. It takes a tremendous amount of discipline to live the worthy and excellent life of a disciple of Jesus in the realities of life. And it is always necessary for us to make an effort to live a life of worth and excellence.

Allow the Potter to put you on His wheel and whirl you around as He desires.

Then as surely as God is God, and you are you, you will turn out as an exact likeness of the vision. But don’t lose heart in the process. If you have ever had a vision from God, you may try as you will to be satisfied on a lower level, but God will never allow it.


All Efforts of Worth and Excellence Are Difficult

July 7  |  Do we appreciate the miraculous salvation of Jesus Christ enough to be our utmost for His highest—our best for His glory?…  God saves people by His sovereign grace through the atonement of Jesus, and “it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure” (Philippians 2:13). But we have to “work out” that salvation in our everyday, practical living (Philippians 2:12). If we will only start on the basis of His redemption to do what He commands, then we will find that we can do it…  If we will obey the Spirit of God and practice in our physical life what God has placed within us by His Spirit, then when a crisis does come we will find that our own nature, as well as the grace of God, will stand by us…

Thank God that He does give us difficult things to do!

His salvation is a joyous thing, but it is also something that requires bravery, courage, and holiness. It tests us for all we are worth.

 

Will To Be Faithful

July 8  |  A person’s will is embodied in the actions of the whole person. I cannot give up my will— I must exercise it, putting it into action. I must will to obey, and I must will to receive God’s Spirit.

When God gives me a vision of truth, there is never a question of what He will do, but only of what I will do.

The Lord has been placing in front of each of us some big proposals and plans. The best thing to do is to remember what you did before when you were touched by God. Recall the moment when you were saved, or first recognized Jesus, or realized some truth. It was easy then to yield your allegiance to God. Immediately recall those moments each time the Spirit of God brings some new proposal before you… Everything else in your life will be held in temporary suspension until you make a decision. The proposal is between you and God— do not “confer with flesh and blood” about it (Galatians 1:16). With every new proposal, the people around us seem to become more and more isolated, and that is where the tension develops. God allows the opinion of His other saints to matter to you, and yet you become less and less certain that others really understand the step you are taking. You have no business trying to find out where God is leading— the only thing God will explain to you is Himself.




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